No Apologies

April 8, 2013 By Kristi Hyland 1 Comment

iStock_000009794294XSmallHave you ever met someone that is constantly apologizing for things that are not their fault? Well, that would be me. I have spent a good part of my life saying sorry to people for things like the weather being cold or the service being bad at a restaurant of my choosing (like I have control over any of that). When I had my CPA practice I would apologize to people for their tax situation, like I was the one that got them into it or I was the one that wrote the Internal Revenue Code that was responsible for their current position. I have had people tell me on numerous occasions that I should not apologize for situations that I did not create or actively participate in. However, it seems to be a habit that is ingrained in me.

I have very consciously made the decision that I will do that no more! Gone are the days of me apologizing for things that are out of my control. Gone are the days of me apologizing for things that are very much in my control, but, honestly, I should not be apologizing for. Things like…

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Starting With “Why”

March 7, 2013 By Kristi Hyland 1 Comment

Concept image of the six most common questions and answers on a signpost.It is amazing what that three letter word can conjure up in someone. Honestly, I have never really given it much thought when it comes to my business life. I mean, I guess I gave it some thought when I started my CPA practice. Why did I start my CPA practice? Because I had just given birth to my second son and my first son, who was two, barely knew who I was. Although I did not work a lot of overtime with my job at that time, I still had an hour commute on each side of it and babies sleep a lot. Then, to add to all that, the weekends were cram packed with house cleaning, laundry and chores. My poor baby boy did not have a chance to see me! My husband (at the time) and I made the decision that it was worth sacrificing the stable income for the future our our boys. But, I never really thought about the why. It was never front and center in my mind. And, I feel, because of that fact, my business meandered around without focus or direction.

So, here I am, starting another business. I have some vague thought of the fact that I want to help people, be here for my boys and…I don’t know, I am sure there is more. But, once again, there is a serious lack of focus. And with that, my business is meandering around again. Until today…

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Soul Connection

February 13, 2013 By Kristi Hyland 3 Comments

iStock_000002399045XSmall“People think your soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you will ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so out of control that you have to transform your life.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

I read this quote on Facebook a couple of weeks ago and it literally left me breathless. Literally. I have never seen a better description of a soul mate. I love it so much because Elizabeth was willing to say it as it really is. She was not conforming to societies “perfect” picture of what a soul mate is. She is real. She is stating it like it is. She is saying that love is not always pretty, but, if done right, will change your life for the better. I plan on going a few steps further in this post and taking soul mate to a whole different level.

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Expectations

February 4, 2013 By Kristi Hyland 5 Comments

Female rock climber.Have you ever heard the phrase, “Never let anyone ‘should’ on you.”. I remember the first time I heard that, I thought it was awesome, funny, but awesome at the same time. Damn straight I won’t let anyone “should” on me! Right? A pretty good mantra to live by. But, reality has set in these days and while looking long and hard in the mirror, I have realized how much I have “should” on other people. It has been creeping up on me for a while now, but it really hit me last night while I was visiting with a friend. She helped me to see exactly how much I have done. Wow, it is embarrassing really…

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Chains From The Past

January 29, 2013 By Kristi Hyland 5 Comments

iStock_000003495874XSmallThe path that I have chosen to walk as a healer is not always an easy one. One of the things my Reiki Master has shared with me is that to be a healer, you must yourself be healed. In other words, all those deep dark shadows of ourselves that we choose to turn a blind eye to? Yeah, I am no longer allowed to do that by the Universe because by doing that, I am not living in complete authenticity. And, if I am not living in complete authenticity, I cannot, in good faith, heal others when I am in need of healing. Okay, that was a very wordy explanation to simply say, the layers of the onion are coming off very quickly these days!

With that said, I wanted to share with you a realization I had just this weekend. For several years now I have been trying to figure out why my youngest son, who is now six years old, seems to still have tantrums as if he is two. My older two boys outgrew that very quickly, yet my youngest seems to be holding on tight to this pattern. Insert major realization…

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